Like Chris over at A Deliberate Life I have a goal to make for July of next year. In one of my recent “digging deep” posts, I mentioned ex hubby had a few choice words for me while we were splitting up. One that keeps out in front in my memory was when he called or rather yelled in my face that I was a “fat cow”. Nice eh? Anyway, even though I have let it go, it hurt at the time. I also mentioned that his youngest daughter (my step daughter) is still actively a part of my life. She spends almost all the holidays with me and my family and we see each other weekly. Well she is getting married in July to a very nice young man who loves her to death. Part of her is scared as she didn’t want to tell her Dad that I was coming to the wedding. When she brought it up, he got quite verbal and said some nasty things (he hasn’t grown up yet nor gotten over the whole thing). She just gets angry at him and tells him to grow up. It’s her day and she wants her Mom there. She does not remember much of her natural born Mother as she passed away when she was only 2. I am all she knows and still wants me to share this day with her. So being Me and who I am, I want to show him that I am NOT a fat cow and I want to be lookin HOT for that wedding. This I think is shallow and almost sounds vindictive but I want to look good and show him what he lost out on by being such an A$$. But I have a tangible goal to strive for, not that I haven’t for the last year, but this one is more out there for me. I really want to look good for that face to face meeting with him and the rest of his family.
So the plan is get into the best shape of my life. And I mean “of my life”. I’ve never been athletic and at 48, I think it’s about time. My weight loss has been so slow over the last year and that’s because I’ve made baby steps in changing my lifestyle. I’m eating cleaner 60% of the time and I need to make that 95% of the time (I don’t think 100% is attainable for me). But I’m still enjoying life while I’m doing this so it really really slows me down. A friend of mine wants me to join this weight loss clinic with her but it is very restrictive and low calorie based meals AND it is expensive. I KNOW I would only waste my money and as much as I would LOVE to lose 20-30lbs in a month, I want my body to adjust to the weight loss as it goes through this and with rapid weight loss like that, well it just would rebound if I tried to go back to my normal lifestyle. I’m just not into diets anymore as I think they have caused me more harm than good. I need to “learn” as I go and eat properly and provide my body with all the right nutrients. Crash dieting would only hurt me in the end. So I’ve chosen to let her know today that I’m not going to join with her but I’m there to help her along the way. She’s just like me in the social lifestyle aspect of things so for me it will be interesting to watch how she does. Besides, I want my skin to catch up to my weight loss so I’m still going to focus on the slow road (even with my July goal).
So I’m going to try to follow a clean lifestyle of eating raw, live, whole foods (things with no more than 2 ingredients) and I know this is going to be a challenge because I have to feed two of us and I’m not sure how supportive the BF will be in eating the same stuff. I’ll have to modify things but I’ll do the best I can. Getting the “right” food is what the challenge is really going to be. There isn’t any local farmers markets or health food stores close to my home. But I will try to make the best of it and see how it goes.
For exercise, I’ve got to keep up my walking and my Turbo Jam for cardio until my hip is better and this week I’m going to start incorporating light weights to lengthen and strengthen my muscles. I’d love to hire a personal trainer in the new year and really get my butt kicked. But until my body is ready, I still have to take some baby steps.
Week 5 - Goals Update:
1. 1. Get up every (work) day at 4:00a to exercise YEAH – I did it – once I got going, 4:00 wasn’t so bad.
- Make Healthy choices (even for those binge attacks if I get another one). Did fairly well – no more bingeing
- Read the Gabriel Method book – YUP did this, almost completed the book. Part on emotional obesity created my two digging posts
Week 6 – Goals for the week:
This being Wednesday, I’m a little behind in my week but it’s still the plan:
1. Establish Positive thoughts each night before I go to sleep (from Gabriel Book)
2. Eat 1800 calories a day
3. Exercise 6x this week
I don’t know if I am going to log all my food here or not but it might be interesting to see what I eat or how I do with the whole eating thing. Would anyone be interested in reading about this type of stuff? Leave a comment if you think it’s worthwhile or if there is enough sites out there that provide the same thing. Mind you… this is for me isn’t it ? J
Have a FANTASTIC week and make good choices.
Sandra
So what if it's shallow? I used the same shallow and petty reasoning to dropped 75 of my first hundred plus pound loss a little over ten years ago. The reason? My 20 year high school reunion. I didn't need to go back looking like the homecoming queen, but I didn't want to go back looking like the homecoming float either. If it works as a motivation, use it. But in a good way - which it sounds like you are doing. You've got enough time between now and The Big Event to do things in a sensible manner. WTG!
ReplyDeleteI am with Roxie...what ever motivates you. You might start out doing it for someone else, but eventually it will be for you!
ReplyDeleteGood luck...you CAN do it.
Hey, that's great! And a very normal feeling, I think! I would love to see the look on his face when he sees you! Haha! Good for you for being realistic in your goals and not aiming for perfection. Great post!
ReplyDeleteI have a lot of trouble understanding how someone can at like your ex. Nonetheless, we are surrounded by ignorant people, that is for sure. I think it would be a great victory for you to go to the wedding in July HOT to the touch!
ReplyDeleteGrats on the goals for the week. 4:00 isn't so bad, is it? Good luck on your goals next week.
I think it's great that you have a goal like the July one to focus on. Like others have said, whatever motivates you!
ReplyDeleteI can't believe you get up at 4 a.m. I am struggling with getting up at 6! I posted about this just today, actually. What is your secret??
from one superficial chick to another....heck yeah, go hot *ss. I would definately want to rub it in his face AND it is all for you either way, you benefit. If I got up aat four in the morning they would find my mangled body under the treadmill. Not.Awake.In.The.Morning.
ReplyDeleteUm, I think stuffing it in your ex's face is a GREAT goal!!! He sounds like he could use a slap or two, lol.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you're setting up a very healthy plan of action. Like you said, you want to do something that you can follow for the rest of your life.
Do what you've planned and you're sure to be smokin' hot by July!!
Thanks for all the nice comments everyone!
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